On-Camera Sex: Reality Or Fiction?

Sex scenes are a common occurrence in film and TV, and they can be tricky to get right. In recent years, the process of filming sex scenes has changed, with intimacy coordinators becoming a fixture on sets since 2017. These experts help to ensure that actors are comfortable and consenting to the level of intimacy required for the scene. Despite this, there is still a level of awkwardness and discomfort involved in filming sex scenes, with actors having to perform intimate acts with strangers, in front of a large crew.

In reality TV, contestants have spoken about their experiences of having sex on camera, and the double standards that can arise as a result.

While simulated sex is the norm, there are some films that have included unsimulated sex scenes, with actors actually having sex on camera.

The use of body doubles and digital effects

In an interview, the producer of "Nymphomaniac", Louise Vesth, revealed that the production first had the actors simulate their sex scenes. Then, body doubles were brought in to film the same sex scenes without simulation. Finally, in post-production, digital effects were used to combine the two versions. This resulted in a seamless blend of the actors' performances and the explicit nature of the body doubles' actions.

In addition to body doubles and digital effects, there are other techniques used to simulate sex scenes. For example, actors may employ the use of pillows, prosthetics, and body stockings to create the illusion of intimacy without actually engaging in sexual activity. Modesty garments, such as flesh-coloured shorts, are also commonly used to protect the actors' privacy and provide coverage.

The presence of an intimacy coordinator on set has become increasingly important in the film and television industry. Their role is to support the actors and ensure their comfort and consent throughout the process of filming intimate scenes. They work closely with the actors, directors, and other departments to establish boundaries, choreograph the scene, and provide a safe and respectful environment.

The role of intimacy coordinators

An intimacy coordinator is a member of a film or television crew who ensures the well-being of actors and actresses who participate in sex scenes or other intimate scenes. They work closely with directors, movement directors, and choreographers to plan out intimate scenes with the actors and other crew members.

The role of an intimacy coordinator is to act as an advocate or liaison between the actors and production teams, ensuring that performers and other production personnel adhere to safety protocols. They facilitate an environment in which actors understand what is expected of them in hyper-exposed scenes and ensure there is informed consent.

Intimacy coordinators help to choreograph intimate scenes, advocating for performers' rights and facilitating open communication between all parties involved. They ensure on-set safety and emotional support for the actors.

The demand for intimacy coordinators grew in the US entertainment industry after the 2017 Weinstein scandal and the MeToo movement highlighted the routine nature of sexual harassment and misconduct in the industry. Actresses such as Emily Meade began to demand professional safeguards for their well-being on set. In October 2018, HBO adopted a policy of using intimacy coordinators for all its series and films with intimate scenes. Netflix followed suit in January 2019 with its series Sex Education, which used intimacy coordinator Ita O'Brien.

When to Hire an Intimacy Coordinator

If your film or project includes any of the following, it is advisable to hire an intimacy coordinator:

• Scenes with simulated sex
• Scenes involving simulated genital contact (above or below clothing)
• Scenes with intense kissing
• Scenes depicting sexual trauma
• Scenes depicting power dynamics or pre-existing relationships within the company that necessitate an outside eye
• If the director is not confident in handling a scene appropriately or navigating the actors in physical and emotional moments

How to Find an Intimacy Coordinator

You can find an intimacy coordinator or intimacy professional for your project by checking out Facebook groups dedicated to connecting creatives with professionals, such as "I Need an Intimacy Professional (Facebook Group)".

How sex scenes are choreographed

Sex scenes are choreographed by intimacy coordinators, who work alongside the director or showrunner. They decide who will be present on the shoot day, what the crew should expect to see and film, and how the wardrobe, makeup, and props teams will work with actors to add details, such as fake sweat.

The intimacy coordinator also meets one-on-one with actors to understand their comfort levels and boundaries. They then work with the actors and director to agree on acceptable touching areas and sculpt the physical scene using words. For example, an actor might say, "I'll put my right hand on the back of your neck and pull so our torsos touch." They then walk through that blocking step-by-step.

The intimacy coordinator also reviews the emotional journey of the scene with the actors, combining the physical and emotional into one fluid execution. This allows actors to focus on their emotional performances, which typically leads to a steamier read on camera.

In the past, directors often left actors to figure out sex scenes on the day of shooting. However, in the wake of the #MeToo movement, teams now dedicate much more time and attention to comfort and planned choreography.

Modesty Garments

Modesty garments are coverings or full-body makeup that shield certain body parts from the camera and prevent genital-on-genital contact, which is strictly prohibited on union sets. Shibues and hibues—strapless thongs—are one popular form of modesty patch. They adhere to the body and give the illusion of nudity without actually revealing an actor’s genitals.

Dealing with Arousal

Intimacy coordinator David Thackeray says that it’s normal for performers to become aroused when simulating sex, and when this happens, the team should simply stop shooting. He calls this a "timeout", giving the actors five minutes before checking in with them again.

The impact of the #MeToo movement

The #MeToo movement has had a significant impact on the entertainment industry, influencing how sex scenes are filmed and changing the way people think about power and gender dynamics.

The movement has led to increased awareness of the prevalence and harmful effects of sexual violence and harassment. As a result, there is now greater emphasis on obtaining consent and ensuring the comfort and safety of actors during the filming of sex scenes. Intimacy coordinators have become integral to this process, supervising the protocols for these scenes and helping to establish boundaries and choreograph physical actions.

The #MeToo movement has also prompted legal changes, with several US states passing laws that prohibit the use of nondisclosure agreements in cases of sexual misconduct. These agreements previously allowed powerful individuals to buy the silence of their victims, preventing others from learning about their actions. Additionally, some states have expanded their sexual harassment laws to cover independent contractors and offer improved protections for domestic workers.

The movement has sparked a global conversation about sexual harassment, with people speaking out and being taken seriously in countries like South Korea, Japan, Israel, Sweden, and India. However, in other countries like Russia, sub-Saharan Africa, and China, #MeToo has struggled to gain traction due to cultural and societal differences.

While the impact of #MeToo is undeniable, there is still much work to be done to ensure real safety for survivors and to implement changes in federal law.

The use of modesty garments

Strapless Thongs

Also known as shibues or hibues, these are adhesive thongs that stick to the skin, providing coverage for the front and back. They come in various skin tones and can be used for side or rear nudity shots, as well as very low-angle shots from the front. The heart or flower-shaped sticker at the back can be replaced with fashion tape for a more seamless look. Strapless thongs are typically used by actors with internal genitalia, but there are also versions available for those with external genitalia.

Nipple Stickers and Stick-on Bras

Nipple stickers, also known as nipple covers, are small, round or petal-shaped stickers that adhere to the skin and cover the nipple. They are designed to be discreet and can be skin-toned or brightly coloured to ensure they are easily visible to the camera during editing. Stick-on bras provide additional coverage and support for the breasts, making the wearer feel more secure.

Pouches

Pouches are designed for actors with external genitalia and provide a secure and comfortable option. They are usually drawstring pouches with a pocket for a barrier material, offering added protection and coverage. Some pouches also have "tails", thin fabric pieces that go between the buttocks to prevent the pouch from shifting during movement.

Athletic Cups

Athletic cups are a great option for scenes involving more aggressive actions, such as a crotch grab. They provide protection for both the actor and their scene partner, giving them confidence during intimate scenes.

K-Tape and Fashion Tape

K-tape is a versatile tool used to secure modesty garments in place. It comes in various colours and skin tones, ensuring a natural look. Fashion tape, on the other hand, is smaller and less noticeable, often double-sided, and ideal for attaching modesty garments with minimal fabric.

Yoga Mats and Neoprene

In a pinch, yoga mats can be cut and used as an additional barrier between layers of underwear or within a pouch. Neoprene offers a similar solution but provides more variety in thickness, allowing for customisation based on the scene's requirements.

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